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Couples Counselling

A thoughtful place to begin, together.

This confidential assessment helps Dr. Nicole E. Francis Cotton and Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr. understand your relationship story, strengths, and the areas where compassionate support may be most helpful.

Confidential & compassionate. Each partner should complete this assessment separately, with honesty and kindness. Your answers are received directly by the VLF counselling team and guide the conversation; they are not a diagnosis.

Allow approximately [XX] minutes to complete.

Your responses are sent directly to Dr. Nicole E. Francis Cotton and are seen only by her and Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr. They are not published, shared, or passed to any third party. Please read the disclosures in Step 5 regarding email communication before you submit.

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This is the first of two assessments.

Each of you completes it separately, in your own words — please do not fill it in together or discuss your answers as you go. Should you choose to proceed, the Gottman Relationship Assessment follows, and each of you receives a private link for that one as well.

Victorious Living is a Gottman Approved Member, authorised by The Gottman Institute to administer it.

Gottman Approved Member
Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr. — Host of Love & Inspiration

Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr.

Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr. is VLF's Lead Perinatal Coach, bringing compassionate, specialist support to individuals and couples navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and perinatal loss. He is also an interpersonal and professional development coach, youth specialist, motivational speaker, and international radio host of Love & Inspiration — with over 2 million dedicated listeners — fully dedicated to transforming lives through authentic coaching and inspiration.

Mr. Roy Cotton, Jr. conducts co-therapy with Dr. Nicole E. Francis Cotton in marriage and relationship counselling.

Step 1 of 5Couple information
Step 1 of 5

Couple Information

Share the details that will help us welcome and support both of you well. Fields marked with * are required.

Partner 1

Partner 2

Are you currently living together? *
Do you have children together? *
Preferred session format *

Please complete the highlighted fields before continuing.

Step 2 of 5

Relationship Vulnerability Map

The following questions help us understand the current health of your relationship. There are no right or wrong answers — your honesty helps us serve you better.

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0 of 16 answered

Your score and a gentle interpretation will appear here as you respond.

Adapted from Dr. Shirley Glass, NOT “Just Friends”, ©2016.

Please answer each statement before continuing. “Not applicable” is always available.

Step 3 of 5

Friendship Boundaries Awareness

The following questions help us understand boundaries within your relationship and social connections.

Answer Yes or No. Scoring: Yes to questions 1, 2, 6, 7, 8 = 1 point each. No to questions 3, 4, 5 = 1 point each.
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0 of 8 answered

Your score and a gentle interpretation will appear here as you respond.

Adapted from Dr. Shirley Glass, NOT “Just Friends”, ©2016.

Please answer each question before continuing.

Step 4 of 5

Communication & Conflict Style

These questions help us understand how you and your partner communicate and handle conflict.

Section A — Fair Fighting Self-Assessment
Section B — Open Questions

Please complete the highlighted fields before continuing.

Step 5 of 5

Email Communication Consent

Please review the following disclosures carefully before submitting your assessment.

How would you prefer to be contacted? *

Please complete the highlighted items before submitting.

Thank you.

Your assessment has been received by Dr. Nicole E. Francis Cotton. You will be contacted within 2 business days to discuss next steps.