Pre-Marital Coaching & Counselling

Couple Compatibility & Readiness Assessment

A confidential, evidence-based assessment to help Dr. Nicole & Roy serve you with wisdom, care, and intentionality.

Faith-Informed Evidence-Based Gottman Method Strictly Confidential
Please complete this form individually, without consulting your partner first. Your honest, independent responses give us the clearest picture of your relationship and allow us to serve you best. All information is strictly confidential.
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Personal Information

Basic details about you and your partner

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Relationship Foundation & Vision

Understanding where you are and where you're headed together

How clearly have you and your partner discussed your shared vision for the future?
Not at allFully aligned
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Compatibility & Connection

Assessing your friendship, communication, and shared foundation

I feel deeply known and understood by my partner.
Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree
We communicate effectively, especially during disagreements.
Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree
I feel emotionally safe with my partner.
Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree
We share compatible values around faith and spirituality.
Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree
We handle finances and money conversations well.
Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree
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Relationship Strengths

Identifying what is working well in your relationship

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Family Patterns & Background

Understanding the families that shaped you — and what you're bringing into your marriage

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Challenges & Conflict Patterns

Every couple has areas of friction — understanding yours helps us help you

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Safety & Relationship Health

Your safety and wellbeing are our first priority

🔒 This section is strictly confidential. Your responses will only be seen by Dr. Nicole Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr. and will never be shared with your partner without your explicit consent. Please answer honestly — your safety matters most.
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Goals for Coaching

What would make this journey a success for you?

Overall, how ready do you feel for marriage at this point in time?
Not yet readyCompletely ready
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Mental Wellness Check — PHQ-4

A brief, validated screening for anxiety and depression (last 2 weeks)

🔒 Clinically validated & confidential. The PHQ-4 is a research-backed screening tool. Your responses help Dr. Nicole provide appropriately tailored support. This is not a diagnosis.

Over the last two weeks, how often have you been bothered by the following?

1. Feeling nervous, anxious, or on edge
Not at all (0)Nearly every day (3)
2. Not being able to stop or control worrying
Not at all (0)Nearly every day (3)
3. Feeling down, depressed, or hopeless
Not at all (0)Nearly every day (3)
4. Little interest or pleasure in doing things
Not at all (0)Nearly every day (3)

PHQ-4 © Kroenke K, Spitzer RL, Williams JB, Löwe B. Psychosomatics. 2009;50(6):613-21. Used for clinical screening purposes.

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Depression Assessment — PHQ-9

A validated 9-item clinical screening tool (last 2 weeks)

Over the last two weeks, how often have you been bothered by any of the following?

1. Little interest or pleasure in doing things
2. Feeling down, depressed, or hopeless
3. Trouble falling or staying asleep, or sleeping too much
4. Feeling tired or having little energy
5. Poor appetite or overeating
6. Feeling bad about yourself, or that you are a failure, or have let yourself or your family down
7. Trouble concentrating on things, such as reading or watching television
8. Moving or speaking so slowly that others could have noticed — or being so fidgety or restless that you've been moving more than usual
9. Thoughts that you would be better off dead, or of hurting yourself in some way

PHQ-9 © 1999 Pfizer Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduced for clinical intake purposes. PRIME-MD is a trademark of Pfizer Inc.

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Personal Peace Assessment

Rate your current level of peace or satisfaction in each life area (0–100%)

For each area below, enter a number from 0 (no peace/satisfaction) to 100 (complete peace/satisfaction). Be honest — there are no right or wrong answers.

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Pinpointing Your Pain

Identifying pain points that may affect your relationship and wellbeing

List up to 5 pain points — things that cause you significant emotional pain. Give each one a title that truly captures your feelings. Use the category codes below:

CGU Childhood / Growing Up FM Family Matters F Friends RR Romantic Relationships WCS Work / College / Social Y Yourself
Pain Point Title Rank (1–10) Category Brief note (optional)
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Email Communication Consent

For communicating with Dr. Nicole E. Francis Cotton & Roy Cotton Jr.

📋 Please read carefully before signing. This consent form explains how email communication works in the context of your therapeutic and coaching relationship.

About communicating via email with Dr. N. Erna Mae Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr.:

Please read the following disclosures about communicating with Dr. N. Erna Mae Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr. using e-mail.

E-mail is not secure or confidential. Hackers and unauthorised users can also attempt to access email through malicious software such as spyware or viruses that may block or cause damage on your computer. However, there is no guarantee that such programmes will always be effective.

Sent and received e-mails are stored on Dr. Erna Mae Francis Cotton's and Roy Cotton Jr.'s computers until deleted. Many people still feel comfortable communicating via e-mail because they have installed firewalls or other programmes designed to detect spyware, viruses, or other dangerous software.

Any saved e-mails will be kept in a password-protected account that only Dr. Erna Mae Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr. have access to. In addition, whenever you send an e-mail, it is stored in cyberspace and the authorities can access these e-mails under various circumstances — this is due to the nature in which e-mail is transmitted using the internet and other service networks.

For more information on this, please contact your Internet Service Provider or e-mail service.

Dr. N. Erna Mae Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr. will use e-mail to respond to e-mails that you send them. If you request that your billing statement be e-mailed to you, they will do so. A rule: Dr. Erna Mae Francis Cotton and Roy Cotton Jr. do not conduct any therapy via e-mail. However, they may use e-mail to handle certain questions or issues that pertain to therapy and related content, if they can be easily and simply handled by that means.

At their discretion, they may also choose to refrain from using e-mail communication for therapeutic reasons.

By submitting this form, your typed name above serves as your electronic signature confirming you have read and understood the above disclosure. A witness signature will be requested at your first session if required.

Consent & Confirmation

Your responses will be sent securely to Dr. Nicole Francis Cotton & Roy Cotton Jr. You will receive a confirmation and they will be in touch within 48 hours to schedule your first session.

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Thank you for your openness and trust.
Your assessment has been received. Dr. Nicole and Roy will be in touch within 48 hours.
We look forward to walking this journey with you.